BDSM Education- Exhibitionism

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Why do people do exhibitionism?

Some do it because their Dom/me has ordered them to, others for the thrill, some for the tease and others for the shock.  Exhibitionism is also an exchange with a voyeur(s).  This exchange can be very positive especially when done in a play party/dungeon setting, in private and sometimes in public.  Here are just a few positives: The Dom/me displays their talent, their care and their pride in their sub.  The sub displays their endurance for the play, the look of love/care for their Dom/me and the lovely look of ecstasy.  

Where do people do their exhibitionism?

Some do it discreetly in public, and some not so discreetly.  Some do it in secluded areas, in private, others at a play/dungeon party, and others in a restaurant, mall, or parking lot, etc.  

Are the subs the only ones to do this or do their Dom/mes participate?

There are those that have their subs do it alone and there are those Dom/mes that participate with their subs.  Leading your scantily clad (but street legal) sub through a casino on a leash would be not so discreet, would be in public with the Dom/me participating.  Doing the same at Folsom Street Fair would be considered pretty normal and not out of place.  Having your sub partially or totally nude at a play party/dungeon would be semi-discreet since it is an acceptable place to be nude or semi nude.  Having your sub answer the door for the pizza delivery person and then turn their back on the delivery person, bend over to retrieve money from a wallet on the floor exposing themselves, would be the sub doing it alone, and would be not so discreet to semi-discreet.  Ordering your sub to drop her car keys the next time she is out, bend over to pick up the keys making sure she exposes herself to a passerby, would be semi or not discreet, depending on where and how it's done.  Taking your sub shopping in a dress wearing no underwear and something inserted in one or both orifices would fall into the discreet category, as would taking your sub for a meal in a restaurant in a dress wearing no underwear, sitting on the surface of the seat (don't want to mess or wrinkle the dress/skirt!) with her legs spread apart for you to tease her under the table.  

Isn't exhibitionism humiliating?  

No, Humiliate- To hurt, the pride or dignity of someone, is not a part of BDSM.  Erotic humiliation is what Dom/mes strive for.  It can be quite a sense of pride for a sub to be shown off by their Dom/me or it can be a dreaded experience, but with a hint of desire.  Erotic humiliation is forcing one to overcome inhibitions and do things they normally wouldn't.  Just remember what is erotic humiliation for one person, may not be erotic humiliation for another.  

Exhibitionism can be private where only the Dom/me and sub know what's going on.  Example: The Dom/me has the sub place a remote control clit vibrator, commonly called butterfly or dragon fly vibrator, on or place a remote control vibrating butt plug in, and out to a meal they go.  The Dom/me can then control when to turn on and off the vibrator causing the sub to jump and/or squeal/whine or drop their fork.  The folks around have no clue what is going on, only the Dom/me and sub.

Things to think about- You also want to limit any activity where the Dom/me might be striking the sub.  Someone seeing/witnessing this type of play, might see it as assault, spousal abuse, if sex is involved they might think it's rape.  Also keep in mind that folks below you can see up underneath clothing, such as escalators, stairs, second story walk ways, swinging on a swing in a park, and glass elevators to name a few.

Ideas: Wearing a collar to work/public; white sheer blouse with black bra showing through worn anywhere; tight fitting shirt with no bra so nipple jewelry is apparent worn anywhere; wearing some BDSM type clothing to the grocery store/work/family reunion; wearing the least material swimsuit one can at the beach/public pool/family reunion; garter and fishnets (no underwear of course) to work/public; wearing lacy frilly underwear under their business suit and going to work; wearing a cock chastity device while at work/public/family reunion; having your sub fill one or both orifices for a workout at the gym; having your sub fill one or both orifices with a wireless remote control device (vibrating or electrical) for going to the mall (so much fun to send them to ask a clerk a question and turn on the device); having the sub in a dress wearing no underwear, sitting on the surface of the seat (don't want to mess or wrinkle the dress/skirt!) with her legs spread apart for you to tease her during a movie or theater performance; having your female sub topless with electrical tape over their nipples (street legal) in public; having your sub play with themselves under a blanket on an airplane, or the Dom/me playing with them under the blanket; going to a nude beach; in a vehicle have your sub recline their seat and spread their legs and play with themselves (of course they need permission to cum) watch for school buses and tour buses, you don't want them to see what's going on, that will get the police called and your license plate number written down, but truckers seem to enjoy such delights, but remember some don't.  Limos can be a fun place for an over the lap bare bottom spanking, if you are bold maybe a taxi cab. 

Ideas of places: Play party/dungeon; private social events; restaurant; work; banks/financial institutions; college campus; airplane; limo; taxi; bus; train; subway; movie theatre; shopping/mall; hot tubbin'; family reunion; weddings; funerals; work; doctors office; hospital; theater; casino; public restroom; parks; museums; amusement parks; sight seeing tours/places; in a vehicle; cruise ship; hotels; drive-in theatre; conventions; and dances are just a few to get your imagination working.

Idea for taking photos in public areas: Key is for the subbie to do a quick flash of some body part (genitals, nipples, ass) while you snap the photo.   Late night using a flash will attract attention so keep that in mind.  Small neighborhood parks at times are free of people.  Phone booths (full and half), public restrooms, sitting on stairs, riding up an escalator, in a museum, looking off a bridge, or in a store.  You get the idea.  

Idea for making home videos: Film them doing daily activities but have them dress or do things they consider erotically humiliating.  Examples: Have the sub dress in a French maid outfit, have the sub bathe the Dom/me; have the sub dress the Dom/me; have friends over for the sub to serve and get spanked by the guests for spills or improperly serving; have the sub kneel at your feet while you visit with your guest, or give them a spanking or whatever might be their daily routine.

Your limitations are your mind and the laws.  Try not to do things in front of children or law enforcement, those are almost guaranteed to get you in trouble.  Be sure and check nudity laws and indecent exposure laws in the area you are going to risk doing things.  It is better to be informed about what fine, community service or jail time might occur if you get caught.  You also might want to take into consideration that depending on who happens to see you do something whether they try to turn it into a sexual disorder issue.


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