BDSM Education- Orgasm

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A small bit of history of the female orgasm: 

Hippocrates a Greek physician born in 460 BC known as the "Father of Medicine" believed that women must always be kept sexually satisfied or she could not procreate.  Aristotle born in 385 BC in Greece.  He studied under Plato and became a sex educator in antiquity.  Aristotle came along and disagreed with Hippocrates.  This began the up and down hell for women.  The middle ages church supported repressing women's sexual satisfaction.  The 18th century continued by banning female pleasure.  In the 1840's William Acton  wrote that women had no need for sex.  "The Madison Institute Newsletter”, Fall 1894 wrote manuals for brides in how they were to lie perfectly still and not move, not moan or groan while having sex.  It took until post World War II for women and sexual freedom to begin moving forward and reclaiming it was okay to enjoy sex and have orgasms.  1948, 1953 and 1966 Masters and Johnson drew conclusion from Seymour Fishers "The Female Orgasm" finding that the greater a woman's feeling that love objects are easily lost or may disappear the less likely she is to attain orgasm.   Freud wrote that the vagina was the only part of a woman where an orgasm could happen and the clitoris was not a source for sexual pleasure.  Simone De Beauvoir wrote about sex for pure pleasure and the clitoris and its importance.  It took until the 1960's before it was finally acknowledged that women could enjoy sex just as men had all along and that women required different stimulation than men to have an orgasm.  Masters and Johnson say at least 25 to 30 percent of people in their 60's have intercourse at least weekly and the majority of women and nearly all men 50-80 are still having and wanting sex.  Today many feel that the quality of life is sexual satisfaction and good personal sexual health.

What is an orgasm for a woman?  

Orgasms are pretty hard to describe.  Sad fact is some women never have them.  10-15% of women can't get turned on or aroused.  15-20% have never had an orgasm or only had one by masturbation.  40% do not have orgasms by intercourse.  5% say intercourse is painful.  20% of women everything works fine but they simple have no interest.  The American Medical Association reports approx. 40 million women have some sort of sexual health problem.

The clitoris seems to be overlooked too often.  For a man to have an orgasm his penis needs to get an erection, same applies to a women clitoris.  When a clitoris is aroused to its fullest it can become twice its starting size.

The brain usually starts the arousal process.  This can happen from seeing a partner naked, hearing the partner talk sexy, the sexual fantasy in the brain, to tasting or smelling the partner's body.  Add a bit of touching playing/stimulating/foreplay with the breasts and the clitoris, this builds up tension inside, the orgasm releases the tension and brings on extreme pleasure.  Also pleasurable contractions are felt through the entire body- vagina, uterus, rectum, and bladder to name a few.  Yes it is possible through mental thought only to have the end result be an orgasm, one that is felt in your body.  FYI-30% or less of orgasms come from intercourse.  For most woman to have an orgasm with intercourse they need clitoral stimulation/foreplay BEFORE intercourse.  

Women's body take on physical change.  Blood coming to the clitoris, vagina, breasts and the nerve endings.  The muscles tightening in the body to cause the needed tension.  Some women fight the tension and won't let themselves get past that tension/edge resulting in them not having an orgasm.

Women can feel different types of orgasms, clitoral or vaginal.  Unlike the man's penis the clitoris is there only to provide women with sexual pleasure.  Back in the 1950's Kinsey reported that half the orgasms women obtain are from clitoral stimulation.  It is the woman's preference which gives her the most pleasure since neither type of orgasm is better than the other.  Women also have the ability to achieve multiple orgasms.  

There are two common types of multiple orgasms women usually have.  

Sequential multiples-  Orgasms that come close together (1-15 minutes apart).  Such as one during oral sex followed by one during intercourse.  

Serial multiples-  Orgasms that come one after the other.  (seconds apart).

Masters and Johnson said there are 4 phases to the female orgasms and that there is no beginning or end to each of these.  

Phase 1- Excitement.  Physical or psychological.  

Phase 2- Plateau.  Increased stimulation. 

Phase 3- Orgasmic.  Powerful contractions.  

Phase 4- Resolution.  Things returning to "normal."

What is an orgasm for a man? 

70% of men will ejaculate in less than 2 minutes after penetration.  50% of men aged 40-70 will have some degree of erectile dysfunction.  1 in 3 men prematurely ejaculate.  1 in 12 has a fertility problem and 1 in 6 couples have problems conceiving and 50% of those cases are because of the man's infertility.

Men's orgasms come from stimulation of the penis.  Muscle tension, erection of penis and nipples, swelling of the testicles, the scrotum tightens up.  Men too can have multiple orgasms, few do.  Men's orgasms also have phases.  

Phase 1- Sexual excitement.  Penis is filled with blood and erection is hard and firm.  Endorphins kick in.  

Phase 2- Plateau.  It is worth not having the quick release or rapid orgasm but rather wait for the greater one that you will get after an hour or two of arousal.  There are a variety of ways men can control and prolong reaching orgasm.

Phase 3- The Orgasm.  Usually can't be stopped once started.  Sometimes accompanied by ejaculation.  Seminal fluid builds up in the prostrate, blood pressure and heart rate increases, muscles begin contracting, the testicles draw up close to the body and penis begins a series of contractions, commonly 8 at about 8/10ths of a second and semen dribbles or shoots out (depends on the muscle conditions).  

Important part that you must remember orgasms do NOT have to have ejaculation.  Yes ejaculation orgasms and multiple orgasms do feel different.  Men usually aren't aware they can have multiple orgasms because they have been conditioned not to.  It is very easy for a man to not have the desire to have another one or claim it's too painful (this can be worked through) or have conditioned themselves to a period of rest between orgasms.

FYI-Some men (and women) complain about condom use and decreased sensitivity.  Also some men that have been circumcised have less or no sensitivity.  

When to seek medical advice and/or treatment.  Drugs, disease, illness and medication can affect orgasms.  If you have circulatory, nervous, or muscular illness or certain disease this can cause orgasm impairment.   Multiple Sclerosis can effect women's ability to have an orgasms or can cause difficulty in having orgasms.  Diabetes can affect the ability to achieve orgasms.  Attention Deficit Disorder and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and Hyperactivity can interfere or impair the ability to have orgasms.  Hormone balance can affect your ability to have orgasms.  Spinal cord injuries or paraplegics CAN still have orgasms it just takes longer and requires direct stimulation.  Just because they can't control the muscles doesn't mean the muscles don't work.  Experimentation will be needed to find what spots on the body will transmit the sensations.  So think of armpits, sides of the ribs and other body parts.  Some men will still be able to get erections, others will not, but they still can achieve an orgasm.

Regardless of if you are a man or a woman the goal should always be to achieve complete and satisfying orgasm(s).

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